Time sure slips away at times. I think daily about the need to set down a post – my need – not “the need” to blog effectively. If I simply followed “my need” there would probably be daily posts!
Part of it is probably that I seem to have so many boxes I’m attending to at the moment, both personally and professionally. Maybe if I do a bit of a recap I can get all this out of my head and continue forward.
Son is still homeless, though on a medicated assisted treatment (MAT) for his substance abuse program – methadone makes him ill, so his outpatient program has him on Suboxone. He has already been on the waitlist for a 90-day inpatient program for three months – and there is yet no end in site. There are only three men’s facilities in our county – each with a small number of beds. We are hopeful. I am hopeful he will stay clean and make it to the inpatient program.
He wants badly to work – but is in the catch 22 of being homeless, looking for work and then how do you work and be homeless? I suggest to him he could find a place to stay easier if he had an income. He sadly reminds me his every day effort is finding a safe place to sleep (or hide at night) where he won’t get mugged or have his belongings stolen. I’m subsidizing him with food every month to supplement the $88 he gets in EBT funds. I bought him a simple, cheap one-burner camp stove and mess kit so he can prepare meals from non-perishable foods. When we are going to medical appointments, I buy him a meal. I pay for a cheap fitness club membership ($15 a month) so he as access to showers.
One of my great heart sadnesses is that I can no longer support him – he cannot stay with me. But I know I must at this point take care of myself, dig myself out of the debt I’ve incurred taking care of him, and move on with my life as best I can.
MY LIFE –
So I am now “renting” a room from my ex. Oddly many say – we are best friends – each other’s emotional support. I help him with his business and that up to a certain amount converts into paying rent – and I happily attend to most of the household activities. For the time anyway, we are both comfortable with the arrangement – separate bedrooms and all.
My small pension and social security retirement keep me going every month – barely right now as I am focusing on bringing down credit card balances. I contribute to food and my half of utilities. There is also my MediCare and supplemental insurance, car insurance, etc. It’s amazing how quickly it gets eaten up.
SIDE HACKS IN RETIREMENT –
I am working on supplementing my income over the next month or so by interviewing for a “task forcing” position at a hotel in San Jose. That means “sitting in” as a sales manager while the hotel takes time to do a search for their ideal permanent candidate. I get a daily fee, accommodations/meals and mileage.
I would never go back to work full time at this point, but two or three opportunities like this would be a nice addition.
THE FUN STUFF –
I help the Ex with his business – we do lead paint inspections on HUD subsidized apartment complexes. We’ve spent a fair amount of time in San Diego and LA – in the San Francisco East Bay Area and now – excitingly – have been hired to do a building in Honolulu (I lived in Hawaii for 15 years, it is my heart)! The second week of September we will be there – 2 travel days, 3-4 work days and a day or two of play. (and my airfare and hotel are covered in the contract)
October 19th my grandson is getting married – I get to officiate their vows! and then October 21 we leave for Kauai for 16 days for a real vacation! Ex’s sister/brother in law are joining us for a week, and friends are joining us the rest of the time. A lovely three-bedroom condo at Plantations in Princeville! Again it’s the generosity of Ex – I paid for my air fare – hopefully the task force side hack will come through so I can chip in more.
So what’s going on in your life? The good, the challenging, the despair, the joy? It seems to always be a combination of all – right?